我的女儿在积极的劳动力when I jumped out of her car on Madison Avenue and 101st Street, leaving her with her husband. We’d been stuck at the corner for some time, waiting for cars in front of us to move, but up ahead there was gridlock. I looked around, stumped as to what to do next. There was nowhere to go — not forward or backward or to the sides — and we were still blocks from the hospital.
My daughter gripped the handle on the car door, her face scrunched in agony. With my child in pain, and us stuck in traffic, my anxiety soared. My job as her出生Doula.是为了保持平静。我刚刚收到Doula认证，以便在她的交付中与她在一起。最初，在第一周Covid.，对谁能进入医院的严格限制。但在5月2020年5月，纽约总督Cuomo被视为出生的德拉斯“基本工作者”。
但像她的母亲一样，我不是an essential工人？
Doulas在劳动之前，期间和之后提供情感和身体舒适和支持ios下载beplay和分娩。他们教育，并通过扩展，赋予分娩妇女，提醒他们他们有选择。当然，这是至关重要的，但不是因为她出生的那一天以来我和女儿一起做什么？不是母亲的责任吗？我不需要一张纸来告诉我我在整个生活中的角色，或在她的交付期间，但医院确实如此。
What’s interesting to consider is that a 20-something-year-old woman (or man), who never had a baby or who never breastfed, can get doula certification and is believed to be essential, while a mother, without that certification, is not. And while I’m the first one to say mothers and fathers can benefit greatly from taking classes and正在读书关于育儿的文章，我不需要在她12岁时与女儿接触之前回答100个多项选择题，她的6年级同学欺负她，或者当她想出国旅行并需要建议和鼓励。
随着社会从助产士迁离助产士，母亲，阿姨和姐妹们在家里提供婴儿，我们变得如此的工业化，现在虚拟培训课程被认为比实际的人更有价值，生活的经历。作为我的认证的要求，我有一个小册子哺乳读书。我母乳喂养了我自己的五个孩子，其中一个孩子，直到她16个月大。
不要给我错了，我抱着Doula的作用in high regard, believing that the presence of a compassionate other is vital in contemporary society, especially as sometimes women don’t have adequate support in their birth journey. My point is not to diminish the role of doula but to elevate the role of mother, to give mothers the respect and recognition they so often deserve and don’t get.
My daughter let out a yelp. Again, I looked around searching for an escape from the gridlock. There wasn’t one. That’s when I got out of the car and ran to 5th Avenue. Directing traffic, I waved on drivers, informing them that a怀孕的女人需要去医院。很快建设workers were helping out, and horns honked as drivers signaled to one another to pass the red light. I ran all the way to the hospital, clearing a path and not allowing parked cars to pull out and slow us down.
在医院，当我们上楼时，员工给了我很难的时间。就像令人垂涎的后台通行证一样，我鞭打了我的证书。他们让我进来，一名护士审查了我的女儿。她已经9厘米。
很难看到你的女儿suffering but that’s my job as a mother, to witness my child’s pain — both physical and emotional — and to acknowledge it, while also providing guidance, education, safety, and support.
德拉斯不做任何医疗。像母亲一样，他们在那里提供舒适，仍然存在，保持开放的心。Cuomo承认Doulas'valut和必要性是妇女权利的重要胜利生殖健康。统计数据展示那些牛犊的女性有更短的劳动力，透镜和较少的剖宫产。根据劳工Doula手册，他们报告称焦虑，孤独和抑郁症减少分娩和产后专业协会，证明了Doulas和其他分娩教育者。
在我们被告知的犹太世界fruitful and multiply。我们提醒我们对犹太人增加灵魂的人被认为是他建造了整个世界。我认真对待母亲的立场，我不会为女儿做什么。花费时间获得认证并成为Doula，所以我可以在她的交付室与她出席，只是我对她承诺的一小部分。她给了许多帽子，她生下的那一天：交通警察，认证的Doula，妈妈，哺乳期专家，厨师（我在那天晚饭后晚点晚饭，也许是最好的，也许是最好的，祖母。
当我第一次去挑选女儿的宝宝时，我说，“来奶奶，”当我抬起他时。
“奶奶？”护士随叫随到。“什么？我以为你是Doula？“
“我是，”我说。“我俩都。”
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