Before I had my daughter, I worked at a synagogue. I was a full-time religious school teacher and immersed myself in the life of the community. A few times a year, we would have a communalShabbatdinner for all of the families. After the
kiddush
and before we atechallah,我将带领家庭传统的祝福ssing over their children. I liked to share a little parable with them. I wanted to share that same story with you.
Rabbi Zusya, a greatHasidicmaster of the late 18th century, used to say, “When I die and meet God, God will not fault me for not being Moses. God will not ask me: ‘Why weren’t you Moses?’ but God will ask me, ‘Why weren’t you Zusya?'”
In parenting, our goal is not to turn our child into Moses. We don’t want to force our children to become the best readers, the fastest runners, the smartest scientists, the strongest pianists–or our vision of who our kids ought to be (though theTiger Momwouldn’t agree). But rather, our goal is to help our children live up to their individual potentials as human beings. It is our task to listen to their needs, help them develop their interests, and do what we can so that when they are asked, they can state with certainty: “I was me.”
So when a friend shared with me these words forblessing my daughter, I adopted them as my own. They’re written byMarcia Falk, a modern-day liturgist (prayer-writer):Heyeyh asher tihyeh. Veheyeh baruch ba’asher tihyeh. Now I wish for each of you this same blessing: Be who you are, and may you be blessed in all that you are.
(And clickherefor the traditional blessings for your child on Shabbat).
Shabbat Shalom!
